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A Tribute to my dear cousin

 I went to work today as usual, joking around with my colleagues, went to my sister's place to pick up my parents only to be told that my cousin has passed away last night 28.01.2010 at 8 p.m Jakarta time. There was no sign at all. I can only think of why is it him? He's life has been hard, and just when it's about to turn around, he passed away just like that.

This entry would be dedicated for him as I remember him as his cousin. His name is Agus Tan, or known as Bun Bun to his families. He was born on 6th August 1980, 1 months older than me, the eldest of the twins, and his siblings. I don't remember much when we were babies and toddlers, but according to our elder cousins, he was as cute as a button. I remember being the same age, we were quite close the three of us, though there were times I hated it that we were of the same age since it makes my mom compare us all the time especially regarding our school result. As we grew older, his personality starts to become distinct. He was a rebel, headstrong, but nevertheless I know that he's kind since he has never shown any violent side to me or to other member of families. After high school, he quarrelled with his dad, my uncle, after that quarrel, his mom whom I suspect might suffer from schizophrenia told him to leave the country to work as his being in Jakarta will bring harm to the family. So he left to Taiwan to work for a few years, during those times, I was in China for half year and we correspondent through letters, he told me lots of stories of his life in Taiwan, his work, how there are lots of old ladies willing to pay him to be their toy boy, how there are few girls who has crush on him. And then I left China, we still keep in touch though it was less often, I still remember sending him a pic of me and my friends in Penang, and told him one of my friend is actually quite cute. I asked him if he wanted me to introduce her to him, which he said no. Then we met in Singapore for our older cousin's wedding, in which he open up his heart to us about his hardship in Taiwan. After that I lost contact with him, and his mother never let us know of his whereabouts. She told anyone who asked that he's working in U.S but refused to give out his phone number or address even to my uncle, his dad. 

10 or 11 years after he first left home, he finally came to look for my uncle on September 2009, that was the first time my uncle met him again after all those 11 years. And after they met, the truths comes out that all this time he has been working in Korea, and for the past 1 year he actually has been working in Jakarta, but his mother forbid him from looking his father. He opened up a business, but as soon as his business went bankrupt his mother kick him out of the house, saying to his siblings that he tried to kill her. During the last 5 months of his life, he's been a good son to his father, taking care of him, visiting him every weekend. I went back to Jakarta on October 2009, and he told me his story, about the time when he worked in Korea, how he was kicked and abused at his work place. I was happy that I finally met him again. He look so healthy and happy. That's why it came as a surprise to me that he has passed away. I was shocked, at first I thought it was because of an accident but then my mom told me that he can't breathe and then he passed away just like that his life has gone. 

I wish I could talk to him one more time but I know that it's impossible. I will miss him. Rest in Peace, my dear cousin Bun Bun.


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